For the initiated, Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, is nothing short of life—and love—altering. Honing your, and just as importantly, your partner’s love language, does the seemingly simple but indispensable task of pinpointing how you both understand and internalize love most effectively. (And it’s not just romantic love, either, relationships of all kinds can benefit.) For some, it’s hearing those three little words that gets the message across, for others it’s grand romantic gestures or some PDA. Whatever the love language—whether you’re the one doing the talking or listening—we’ve compiled romance-centric gifts that speak to all five.